Untangling the tangled

How often do you ignore the minor tangling in your earphones only to get frustrated when you have to untangle a huge mess at a later point of time (Usually when the tangling makes it impossible to use)? Often in my case.

Life can be perceived as a set of earphones. The more we wait to solve the minor issues in life, the more we live an unhappy life. The more we choose to ignore the minor issues, the more frustrated we get at a late point in life.

So, whats the solution?

It must be intuitive by now : Get rid of the minor issues as they come up. Ignorance is a disease. Act and solve the problem as it comes.

Putting away these minor issues thinking that they too little for your attention is a dangerous thought. A thought which should have no place in our lives.

It is important that we unplug from our day to day lives and sort out the small little things which have been bothering us. These things will let you to a path of self-realization and happiness. Life isn't about reaching a desired destination, it is about enjoying the journey to that destination. Don't be so caught up to reach that destination that you forget to enjoy the beautiful part of life : The Journey.

Starting today, heck, starting NOW, sit back and think about the possible issues in your life that need your attention and have been ignored because they are just too small! Unplug yourself from the world, recreate the magic in your lives. Do whatever you should in order to solve these issues and stay happy! Choose your way!

After all, who doesn't love a perfectly untangled earphones.

After all, who doesn't love to live a happy life.

L O L :)

Control

How many times in life have you felt frustrated?

How many times in life have you felt helpless?

How many situations in life have made you fill with anger?

How many situations in life have made you feel worthless?

All these situations have one thing in common : You were trying to control something that is not meant to be controlled by you.

You have to understand and accept the fact that you cannot control everything.

The sooner you let go, the happier you will be.

All those feelings can be avoided if you just try and perfect whatever is in your control.

Hard Work. Determination. Positive thinking. Diligence. All these will be required to perfect things that are in your control.

Once you learn to ignore things that fall outside your spectrum, you guarantee yourself a peaceful and a happier life.

So, the next time you feel frustrated, angry, helpless or worthless, just try to divide the situation into things that fall in your control and things that are outside your spectrum.

Once you have done that, work on the things that were within your control and completely forgot about the others. (Get up. Act. Execute. Change it.)

(The division can be achieved by asking yourself the simple question : Is it in my control?)

For example -

You can do nothing about a closed one's death! You just got to accept it, pray for them and move on! However, the one thing that is in your control is to express your emotions. Don't bottle 'em up. It will explode. So, just express these emotions. (Thank you EternallyBuzzing)

Don't fret over the fact that a relationship is not working, instead do whatever you can to make it work :)

L O L :)

Life is a Competition

Dear Gemini,

Life is a competition. A competition not with your roommate, not with your classmate, not with your friends, not with a stranger. It is a competition with yourself. Every time you are down and out, you have to compete with yourself to come back strong. Thats the competition I am talking about, thats where you need to focus.

Competing with others is the most disgraceful thing you can do with your life. There are three possibilities in competing with others -

1. You feel that you are far ahead of your competitors, and thus you tend to slack. This feeling of winning against others will make sure you never realize your true potential. NEVER. EVER.

2. You feel that you are far behind from your competitions, and thus you give up. This feeling of worthlessness will also make sure you never realize your true potential. NEVER. EVER.

3. You are on par with your competition. This is as worthless as the other two, because your actions will be based on the fact that you want to win the competition, and not what you feel/think is the right thing to do. Choosing a path for the sake of just merely winning against someone else will also make sure you never realize your true potential. NEVER. EVER.

Three different possibilities and three exactly same outcomes. Do you want these outcomes? If yes, then stop reading and compete.

IF NO, then STOP COMPETING and START LIVING.

Life is not a race to be won, in fact it is a journey. The destination does not matter, its the journey that has to be beautiful and satisfying. There is no finish line. There is no end. You live till you die. For that to happen, stop competing!

There is a volcano of thoughts inside everyone. The volcano of thoughts will be different in each of the case (The three cases) if you are competing -

1. If you are winning, the volcano will be of proud feelings and thoughts. But, let me tell you, it is short lived. For you may soon be competing with someone else in your head. Its all in your head.

2. If you are losing, the volcano will of worthless feelings and negative thoughts. I don't need to explain what this could do to a person.

3. If you are on par, the volcano will be of stressful feelings because of the tight competition you are having in your head.

All these three volcanoes is not what God created us for.

She created us to have a volcano of passion and positive energy. It was created to be full of vibrant and beautiful ideas. For this to happen, you have to start competing with yourself.

Before you go to bed tonight, take an oath - Whatever happens in life, I will also be competing with myself to realize true potential. For there is no better feeling than believing that you lead a life full satisfaction. A life without regrets. A life so beautiful, that you don't want to change a single thing. A life so meaningful.

A life full of love, harmony, peace and humor.

On that note, stop all the competition with others. Start a lifelong competition with yourself. DO IT NOW.

LOL (Lots of Love),

Taurus

What does it mean to Love someone?

I was recently asked - What does it mean to Love someone?

The first reaction when I heard this question was to ignore it, for I didn't want to open my box of emotions and answer this question.

Second Reaction,

Loving someone is the most immaculate feeling in life.

It is skipping a heartbeat when you hear something you want to.

It is having a heartache when you hear something you don't want to.

It is like proving the world that the earth is flat in order to keep that someone happy.

It is sleeping on that someone's lap and being at peace with life.

It is the feeling of extreme joy, pleasure, happiness!

It is the dream of hearing back the three magical words.

It is about making that someone smile.

And doing things to sustain that smile.

It is about smiling every time you think about that someone.

It is about wanting to talk without having anything to talk about.

It is about the unconditional care, love and support.

It is about going to the extreme of sacrificing the love in order to keep that someone comfortable/happy.

It is about being friends before loving each other.

It is about hugging that someone, kissing their forehead, and saying - " I love you. It's like a dream come true. Lets grow old together :)"

If ever this thought comes in your mind -

Today, I wish I didn't love her. Every day I try to convince myself that I don't. And I've done a good job fooling others. All I need now is to fool myself - (MMT)

Then keep this in mind -

If you stop listening to your heart, then it will stop speaking to you. You shouldn't try to fool yourself into feeling something you don't. Or rather, you shouldn't try to fool yourself into not feeling something that you do. Your emotions will run numb if you succeed, and that's worse than the pain you are feeling now. Please try to find another way. You won't regret it.

Remember, Love just happens! Don't try to force it. It's all destined. Be what you are and you shall be rewarded with someone who loves as much as you do.

Omens

I have always believed in Omens from the bottom of my heart.

Recently, I have been wanting to do a particular thing, and somehow the omens have not supported me. I can't define omens, its just a message by god in the most possible way to tell you if you should continue doing it or stop pursuing the task.

However, the weakness of will has been tough to overcome. Especially because that is something I have been wanting to do for a couple years. And, that 'want' of doing something has been sealed in a box and that box has been thrown at an unreachable point in my body till the time I lie down on my bed and call it a night. After that its a mess. A big mess.

And, I am still confused to let it out or to keep it in.

India!!

Again.

I can't express the feelings in writing.

A few words that explain my break -

Family.

Work (For the first time)

My New Car (Well, it looks new)

Poker

Quorum

Drives

Dinners

Flavors

Midnight Cafe

NYE'10

Research :(

FOOD

That's all I can think as of now.

Have a Happy New year.

The Box of Emotions.

Once upon a time......

There was a boy named Mikhail who lived in this/his happy world. A small city, which promises a lot of love is where he was settled in. The city had enloped him in its charm and happiness and never ceases to do that till now. After years of living away from home in a renowned boarding school, he met this girl, named Jenna, in his new school. They met through common friends, but soon became such good friends, that the common friends were forgotten. It wasn't love, it was just happiness that surrounded their relationship.

They would laugh together, cry together, make others laugh and make others cry. They were partners in crime. They lived, they talked, they lived to talk. The world around them was Perfect, coz they only cared about the world which surrounded them.

For the world, Mikhail and Jenna were too good a friends to remain friends. Mikhail was a nice hearted guy, who till then didnt know what hate meant. He had a sort of dysfucntional background, and Jenna was the one that he shared his world with. Every bit of emotion, every moment of joy, every moment of life was shared. Jenna, on the other hand,was someone,Someone that Mikhail had no clue about. He thought he knew her, but, unfortunately that wasn't the case. Jenna for him that time was someone who was innocent, honest and caring. She loved getting pampered and Mikhail loved pampering her. In short, it was just a perfect relationship.

Soon enough, it was that time of their lives where they had to part ways. They entered two different worlds, very different from their previous one. This was too small a change for their relationship to break down. They kept going strong and overcoming several obstacles like time, differences and difference in time and difference in the environment. Mikhail made sure that the differences don't create a dent in the relationship. Difference in environment is what decides how we evolve as a human being. Needless to say, they were in totally different environments and thus were evolving as different beings.

This went on for year, after which unfortunate/fortunate things gave them a change to reunite and reignite their friendship. This reunion was meant to be at the place where Mikhail had lived for the past year. Mikhail had grown himself to get accustomed to the place and was in love with it. He had everything he desired/dreamt of at that place. Everything. He was apprehensive about being reunited with Jenna, because he had evolved in a different environment, with wonderful people. But, he was still excited to be reunited.

Both of them were way too excited to be with each other again and be a part of each others presence again. The reunion was fantastic. They met, they ate, they laughed, they talked, they lived, they lived to talk. Again. This went on for an year, the year was a roller coaster ride for both of 'em. A ride where they savored the ups and stood through during the downs.

Their stars had decided to exchange places by the end of the year. They were about to be separated again and this time, the places were swapped. Mikhail went to a place where Jenna had lived for an year. Mikhail, went in with a lot of expectations, a lot of determination, a lot of motivation. Jenna, on the other hand, was well settled in the place she lived with Mikhail for an year. She was in love with the place and with the people. Mikhail was sad to leave Jenna and his old memories of the place, but was excited for the start of something new in life.

Mikhail found it tough to accept the change in environment, he was still in love with his past. He found it hard to live in a new place without any mental, emotional or moral support. For the first time in his life he 'felt' alone. Previously, he had always lived away from family but with a family of friends. So this change was too big a thing for him to handle. He broke down. He was shattered. But, he had Jenna on his side. Or so he thought.

To his utter surprise, Jenna has decided to step out of Mikhail's box (Read as Heart) of emotions. Why? Mikhail still doesn't know the answer. Mikhail was ignored, reminded of the Time difference, reminded of the fact that Jenna has her life too. Mikhail found it hard to survive a single day. He wasn't used to such a lifestyle. Mikhail found it tough to believe, for him it was like a bad dream, which he thought will soon get over. But it never did, for Jenna had decided to step into a new venture with some one else. Mikhail often found this upsetting, for he was insecure that he might lose Jenna. But, he also knew that Jenna was not doing anything wrong. He asked for time to accept it, but Jenna was too tight on schedule to give him his time. And, thus Mikhail's box of emotion was left with a void. A void that made it tough for him to survive. He didn't give up for the longest time. But, when he gave up, there was no chance for Jenna to re-enter and affect Mikhail's life any bit.

Mikhail took a long time to come out of this shock and realize that Jenna had decide to step out. Mikhail had finally decided that he will fight it out without her. It was not as if he didn't have other friend. In fact, he did have a lot of wonderful friends, but it was his attachment with Jenna that made him suffer. Jenna was well settled with her new life, and Mikhail was still finding it tough to survive. But, for Mikhail it had been a learning curve. A curve that taught him a lot. A lot more than he couldn't have seen if he didn't go through the rough patch.

Soon Mikhail was accepting things as they were, learning to live life as it was. That void was teaching him things, making him stronger each day. Slowly, but surely the void was replaced by Love, harmony, peace and Humor. With happiness, work, family and friends. But Mikhail learned it the hard way, that the void in the box of emotions should not be dominated by a single person. In fact, it should never be dominated by a person. He learned the hard way, that things come and go.

He finally understands that - 'Times change, years change, priorities change, people change, friends change, bes of friends change, But that one thing remains the same, 'The Box of emotions'. Thus, he has since been trying to understand the working of the most wonderful creation of God, 'The Box of Emotions.' And, thats how he defines his Self-realization, which is his ultimate goal in life.

* All characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real person, living or dead, is purely coincidental.